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The more choices we give ourselves...

The more choices we give ourselves, the harder it becomes to choose, like taking a seat in an almost empty thatre. The American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals tested the ‘less is more’ theory by reducing the number of cats on show in their adoption centre in Colorado. With 40 per cent fewer cats for visitor to choose from, the adoption rate doubled.

Remember that vulnerability is a good feeling...

Remember that vulnerability is a good feeling, it’s the feeling we get when we are about to grow or connect with something or someone important. And the best thing we can do when we know there’s something important we are putting off is to ‘eat that frog’.

Let there be spaces...

Let there be spaces in out togetherness.

When you start to focus...

When you start to focus on the parts of your life and the people who inspire and energize you, you remind yourself of all the good things you already have, rather than constantly being on the search for more. More ‘stuff’ is just a temporary fix; genuine abundance starts with gratitude. If you can take a few minutes each day to remind yourself of all the things in your life you are grateful for, all the opportunities and exciting choices you have, tou automatically begin to focus your life on the things and people that make you happy and bring success. Stop comparing yourself to others and worrying about the things you don’t have - focus on what’s good and how you can prioritize these things and people in your life.

We must be willing to fail...

We must be willing to fail and to appreciate the truth that often life is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery to be lived.

There is a wonderful book called 'Simplicity Parenting'...

There is a wonderful book called Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne. Not only is it an inspiration to all parents, but I think any adult can learn a thing or two from it about flourishing through simplicity in these increasingly busy times.

The things we want the most have more risk associated with them...

It’s one of life’s cruel ironies, but the things we want the most have more risks associated with them, because we care more about the outcome - and so even thinking about them makes us feel vulnerable.

The Power of Vulnerability

One of the most viewed TED talsk, by Brené Brown, is titled ‘The Power of Vulnerability’. As a researcher, Brown wanted to find out what truly ‘connected’ people had in common, and she discovered they had a shared willingness to be open to vulnerability. This openness allowed them to make deep personal connections, because the places where we experience fear and vulnerability are the same places where we will find our dreams, along with increadible experiences of love and joy.

We can easily forgive a child...

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.

Less fixed, more flexible

Dr Ilona Boniwell, one of the world leaders in the field of positive psychology, described how people tend to have either a ‘fixed mindset’ or a ‘growth’ mindset. Her research discovered this often has to do with how we were taught at school or parented.